Grant Wattie is a relationship transformation specialist based in Havelock North, New Zealand. With his wife and co-founder Christine, he has worked with more than 5,000 couples over more than 10,000 sessions, with a success rate of 85 to 90%. Together they developed the Inside-Out Method, the Phoenix Protocol, and Love Without Limits, the frameworks behind their work at grantwattie.com and christinewattie.com.

Where it started

Before any of this, Grant and Christine were photographers. Not the local studio kind. They moved between New Zealand and Malaysia photographing kings, sultans, and future prime ministers, walking through palace gates most people never see. From the outside, it looked like everything was working.

Inside their own marriage, fourteen years in, with young children and a business taking everything they had, it wasn’t. They came close to losing each other. What followed, the slow and honest work of finding their way back to each other, became the foundation of everything Grant and Christine now teach. They sold the photography business, trained as counsellors, and went all in on the work. “What we learned from nearly losing each other became the foundation of everything we now teach.”

What he does now

Grant works directly with couples and individuals, often in crisis, sometimes simply wanting their already good relationship to be great. His focus is on being over doing: who you’re being in a situation shapes everything that follows, more than any technique or script ever will. He asks questions like “who are you being in this situation?” and “what context are you operating from, threat or safety?” because the answers to those questions, not the surface behaviour, are where change actually happens.

This is also the territory of Grant’s current writing project, The Audition, which explores the shift from performance to presence in the second half of life, particularly for men who have traded authentic presence for the hollow performance of competence. The same questions that help a marriage in crisis are often the same questions a high-achieving man has never asked himself.

How he works

Grant and Christine describe themselves as results-oriented transformation specialists rather than traditional therapists. The work moves at the speed of executive coaching with the depth of 20 years of clinical training behind it. Couples often see real movement within the first week, because the work goes to the level of being and context rather than managing behaviour over time.

Grant is also the founder of Wattie Advisory, working with founder families on the relational side of business succession and legacy, and Aroha Leadership, the company behind the wider body of work.

If you’d like to talk with Grant directly about where you and your partner are, a free 15-minute call is the place to start. Book at grantwattie.com/contact

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